Beyond the interaction with your harasser, the single most important thing to get you through harassment is keeping a healthy mind. Harassment takes a big tow on exactly this, your balance, your wholeness, your confidence level and your emotional and social interactions. So here are a few ideas on how to do that: Work on … Continue reading Harassment 101 – Your peace of mind
Another way to break the cycle of harassment is to change your reaction to it. When we are harassed we usually close in, cry in our corner, start panicking, don't feel like going out anymore, avoid the short coffee breaks or lunches that we used to love before. But doing this feeds our negative feelings … Continue reading Harassment 101 – part III. How to make your boss stop harassing you without appealing to formal measures (continued).
Oftentimes, a bullying boss (we'll call him "mini boss") is bullied in turn by his own boss (we'll call this one "big boss") which causes him (or her for that matter, I remind that when using he I refer both to male and female persons) to lash out on you and your coworkers even harder. … Continue reading A bullied bully (1)
I mean with your new boss. This might come like a surprise but sometimes, for reasons independent of you, your boss simply wants you gone so that they can bring their own people aboard. Maybe you didn't "click" and whatever you do or whatever you say it's not going to bring you any glory. Sooner … Continue reading So, you’ve started off on the wrong foot …
The first thing you need you need to do to stop him is to break the cycle of harassment. Start with letting it out in the open. The next time you feel intimidated dig your feet firmly into the ground and in a stable and loud voice while looking him straight in the eyes serve … Continue reading Harassment 101 – part II. How to make your boss stop harassing you without appealing to formal measures
From any angle you look at it harassment is a deeply inappropriate behaviour. Cambridge dictionary for business defines it as illegal behaviour towards a person that causes mental or emotional suffering, which includes repeated unwanted contacts without a reasonable purpose, insults, threats, touching, or offensive language. The legal definition of harassment differs from one country to … Continue reading Harassment 101 – part I. What is harassment at work
1. In meetings When you are in a meeting, instead of looking for stuff to correct, look for stuff to add to the conversation. Focus on your goals and do not lose them from sight just for the sake of being right. Think about what is being said instead of focusing on what you are … Continue reading How to be constructive instead of destructive at work
This is serious. If you feel your boss is harassing you don't wait for months until you take action. It will have a cost on your career, on your health, on your entire life. Let's take a closer look. Although legal definitions of harassment can differ from one country to another, there commonly are three … Continue reading Help! My boss harasses me!
Having a new boss is not necessarily a problem. Both when you change jobs and when your boss changes on you, you have the advantage of a clean slate. Here are a few ideas on how to start off on the right foot with your new boss: 1. Do not listen to rumors. It is … Continue reading There is a new boss in town